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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your neighbor is already an outcast and isn't ever going to be in the clique. You are probably a fringe member of this crowd already.

Think of this as MS and HS: there are still Popular People to include parents. The Popular Parents are playing the Long Game and it's all just beginning.

The Popular Parents will, if not already, assume key volunteer positions in school, youth sports and even church. So look for them to be PTA and HOA board members, then they'll be your kid's soccer coach. They all have Happy Hours and often vacation together and then their children all magically in the same ES classes, play travel sports together, then become mini versions of their parents by late ES. Their kids learn early how to social engineer and climb and by this point, will have no other friends outside their parents' circle. The parents will begin to accept by MS that their kids are outgoing and love to party, so will just buy the keg for all the friends. It's safer this way and they can be the ultimate cool parents.

Step away now, OP and forge your own path...from the whole mess. [/quote]

This poster may be right. I think your outsider friend is insecure, and she is taking out her anger on the wrong person. I wouldn't gossip about her anymore to the larger group. You've probably managed to completely isolate her by doing that, but, she is putting you in a difficult situation, and I agree that you should not be inviting her to another child's party.

Who is the queen bee of this group?  It is likely one or two women, and it is very clear from these posts it is not you. If the outsider friend was more socially astute, she would realize that you are not the person she needs to get close to. Maybe tell her straight up, you need to be in touch with larla and jane, they are the organizers. I have no power.

I ditched a large group like this when my kid was in the 3rd or 4th grade. Didn't want myself or my kid to be part of a clique. You are being made fun of by other parents who think this clique is ridiculous, I can guarantee it.[/quote]

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