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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] OP, you sound jealous[/quote]

Jealous....of women who consider their dogs to be the equivalent of a human child?[/quote]

No. Jealous that she was smart enough to have dogs and not kids and lead an unencumbered adventurous life. Sorry you drank the kool-aid.[/quote]

If someone told invited you to a birthday dinner and there were 20 other people there and they spent the whole party talking about how 9 other attendees also had birthdays within 6 months of yours and therefore it was their party too then it would be a sucky party for you. If you had been invited to a joint party from the start then hey, the more the merrier, super fun! But it was sold to you as specifically your birthday party. You got excited thinking about it in that context. What’s the point of having told you that if there were going to be 10 names on the cake?

What’s the point of Mother’s Day if it’s for every person that has taken care of another living thing.

Weirdly there aren’t a bunch of childless by choice dads coopting Father’s Day with pictures of their dogs. Because people don’t expect men to have to put their emotions aside for the emotional benefit of others.[/quote]

I would be totally fine with that party, because I am a grown woman and I appreciate getting to see people but do not need to have a My Big Day birthday party any longer.

You people are very strange. Your life isn't any less because people with dogs are goofy on FB.[/quote]

None of you have any reading comprehension. I would also be totally fine with that party, as I said there and in my follow up, if that was the party I was expecting to go with. In fact, if given the choice between the two, I'd pick the group party every day of the week. But if it was presented one way and turned out to be another, I wouldn't. And I doubt posters that say they would be fine with someone acting like they were going to celebrate you and then actually lumping you in with 10 other people. If you showed up on your wedding day and two other couples were getting married, I bet you'd be a little WTF about it. [/quote]

So in this analogy, Mother's Day is your wedding and other people celebrating it in a way that you turn your nose at makes YOUR wedding less special?

The thing is that the greater world isn't obligated to honor YOUR BIG DAY - be it your wedding, your birthday, or Mother's Day - but refraining from enjoying themselves that day in ways that you disapprove of.

I guess if your spouse decided to invite some dog moms over to your house to celebrate Mother's Day with you and gave them all diamond tennis bracelets, then I could understand your analogy?[/quote]
 
No they are NOT obligated to honor my big day. Of course they are not. Which is why the IMPORTANT piece here is that it is mother's day. Or it is your wedding day. And you have a plan/expectations/whatever that are tied to what the day is. Take it out of the context of things you think are stupid and self serving to begin with. What would you think of someone trying to have a march celebrating Abe Lincoln on MLK day? Abe Lincoln is GREAT AND IMPORTANT. But making a day that is supposed to honor a key black activist about a white activist seems crappy. Both people are good! But you don't co opt the day of specificity because it takes away from the meaning of supporting MLK.

So if I planned my wedding to be my wedding, and then someone else was getting married at the exact same place and I had to share the space, I would be annoyed because my expectation was that I was going to have my wedding there alone. No one is obligated to come to my wedding but me! No one is obligated to celebrate it unless they want to.

I feel like people are intentionally misunderstanding my argument to mean that I personally or mothers specifically need a big to do. That is not what I'm saying. I'm saying if you go up to person x and say, "person x, we appreciate you so much and are honoring you in a meaningful way on friday at 2pm" and person x shows up and he's one of 100 people being honored and they barely say his name because so many other people are there, he's not going to feel honored. Whether he deserved the honor in the first place is irrelevant, one supposes that by including him and reaching out to him you INTENDED to honor him. And then devalued that honoring by not telling him he was one of 100 honorees, you let him walk in thinking he was the star of the show. 
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NP.  You still haven't explained why someone posting a picture of their dogs is ruining your Mother's Day.  Because there is no valid reason why that should have any affect on your whatsoever.  How does that change how much you are "honored"?[/quote]

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