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[quote=Anonymous]I'll talk you down!

I haven't read all the advice in here but perhaps this has all been captured

For context I work about 40 hours a week and my husband travels most the week so he may see our kids 1 or 2 weekdays vs every day

1) DH still has a great relationship with the kids!  I won't lie, its not the same as mine, but they have a very deep relationship and their own connection.  So if part of your concern is not having enough time with your kids (and i get that!) know that you'll still have a special mommy relationship and bond even if you keep doing this job.  You may miss out on some things as you want as a mom, but you are not hurting your kids

2) Get a very flexible nanny.  It relieves so much stress knowing that if plans need to change at the last minute, it doesn't cause a logistical nightmare.  This is both for your schedule but even more so for your DH if he's the one carrying the bulk of the load and its limiting his ability to stay late at his job or whatever when needed

3) outsource everything so when you have time at home it's either relaxing time or downtime

4) accept that in the little kid stage, everyone is either working or doing childcare or domestic tasks pretty much all the time.  That's true regardless of job.  We're all stretched and exhausted.  i live for the 30min of tv i reward myself with on workweek evenings.  Its a phase, working or sah, the demands are relentless in this stage

5) budget in time for something ANYTHING on the weekend. a trip to the gym, an hour at the coffee shop, whatever. something to look forward to as your break[/quote]

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