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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the PP who said DH needs to do way more. And I will repeat it again. Why is it the mom who’s on dcum trying to fix this?  He needs to take responsibility for 95% - and if he doesn’t want to do all that himself (and of course I don’t blame him), HE needs to figure out how to outsource.

That’s what women in his position do all the damn time, and they usually don’t even have to be asked. OP is bearing the mental load, and she shouldn’t be.[/quote]

Normally I would agree with you but her concerns are almost entirely centered around work.  She's not saying she's coming home to a filthy house and having to make all the meals, she's literally asking for tips about getting emails from clients during the time she's blocked out for her baby.  There's nothing in the question that points to a failure on her DH's part to step up, it's all about setting and defending boundaries at work.[/quote]

OP. This is correct. He does the vast majority of the housework and cooking. I help out when there's time, but I don't have a problem with this arrangement. We also got lucky with a pretty easy baby, so home life is generally manageable. It's managing work that I'm having trouble with. [/quote]

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