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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every SAHM I’ve met - unless they have significant family wealth UNRELATED to their husband that they never merged - is effed in divorce.[/quote]

I saw this happen to only WOHMs. They were effed in divorce because they were mommy-tracked at work and did not get much alimony.  The SAHMs actually made out like bandits because they were not working. The attorneys will also advice SAHMs considering divorce to not get  a job. [/quote]

I don’t know about being advised not to get a job, but alimony plus child support plus the house, the car and some time to get a job is not the horrific catastrophe some people make it out to be. Yes your standard of living is decreased, but I don’t know these fabled SAHMS with UMC husbands living on the streets [/quote]

That is because they live in a different neighborhood.

Move to hagerstown or Frederick and you will meet them.[/quote]

In all seriousness, you know a woman who stayed at home, married to a MC/UMC man who is out on the streets in poverty after the divorce? 
No one is saying the standard of living would be equal, of course not,
but there is a huge difference between selling a home and buying a townhouse farther out, getting an average job, and driving a Ford instead of a Lexus with kids in public school than the hysteria these threads incite.
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I know a few who waited tables/secretary/sub teacher, lived in an apartment, lost custody of their kids, could not contribute to college, and are still in that situation or married again and are alienated from their kids.[/quote]

Right, so they have housing in an apartment, have basic  jobs. You just described half of America. 
The part of them losing custody of their kids and alienating their kids has nothing to do with the money aspect, unless you are trying to go down the slippery slope of a more well off father buying his children’s love, which would need a separate post.

My mom was a SAHM with a HS education married to a lawyer , and she did live in a paid off condo after her divorce, worked as a secretary, my sister and I had no college debt due to help from our fathers side and my mom is still not in a cardboard box receiving a good chunk of my dads SS in her late 60’s. She drives a Ford Escort and is dating a man from her hometown. No soup kitchen for her. 
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