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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh, turn it into some fun, just go out there, buy a three sizes smaller dress for you mom and say, 
okay, how bout we do this your way but you have to do it my way.[/quote]

No, no, no. Buy her a XXL. Make a big show of saying “sooo sorry! I was sure that was your size! Are you sure?...? That looked like was just your size.”

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This. One of the few ways to "cure" this behavior. 
I wish someone has taught me how to call Grandma out on her crap when I was 16. [/quote]

This is the PP with the grandmother who said nasty things about my dad.

I do wish that back then I had balls to call out my grandma on the shitty things she said. I was taught to respect elders, which is why I didn't, but if she had said those things to me now as a grown woman, I would call her out in a second.

But here's the thing I also realize now: calling her out would have made no difference. In her mind, she was always right, screw everyone else. It was part of her permanent mindset, a result of her probable mental illness, a result of her belief that she was the victim if things didn't go her way. For Pete's sake, she didn't talk to my uncle for five years because he said he didn't like her new couch.

OP knows her mom best, on whether actions like this could "cure" her, but if her mom is someone so ingrained with selfishness and self-centeredness, it won't really do anything.[/quote]

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