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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I haven’t read all responses, but it seems like you’re more upset about DH not getting money from his ex than you having to “subsidize” him. If he were getting some money her, I think you’d be fine with the unevenness of incomes, but you feel like he’s letting her off the hook money-wise and you are left to pick up the slack. I can understand how that would make you resentful. This woman is essentially taking money away from your household by not contributing her share toward her children. I don’t know their backstory though. I think you need to accept your DH’s circumstances as is because you knew them going into marriage. Household finances are a zero sum game so you need to accept that money to pay for your lifestyle in retirement will have to come from somewhere (likely more from you) or you will have to adjust your lifestyle downward to account for the disparity in savings. I think I know which I’d choose.[/quote]
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