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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just because it’s come up,

She was a smart woman, turned a little bit of money into wealth.  I don’t think it’s okay that two kids who aren’t biologically related to her now adult child, are going to receive half of that wealth. She didn’t go the route of a trust specifically because he had no intentions of starting a second family. She was my friend, I know details because when you prepare for end of life people like to talk through things. We talked through how our children will continue on without us and the money gave her a huge relief for her son. 
 Marrying someone with kids is one thing, but fully taking on two young kids plus a baby is different, and I don’t think it’s right that he’s taking an “all is equal” approach because she would have protected her son if this was something she thought would happen.  [/quote]

So it's her money that will now be spread out to another's.    Different story then in My opinion.

She trusted her spouse.  I feel for their son.
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+10000
Not his money. Hers. I don't understand why the PPs are piling on the OP. He has no business giving her money to kids that are not his. [/quote]

All of you people claiming that this is "her" money are creating facts out of whole cloth (and frankly, have rocks in your collective heads).  From the initial post:  "I know she left this world thinking her son was heir to 100% of their family’s wealth[.]"  The family's wealth, not her wealth.  The OP then expanded, "She was a smart woman, turned a little bit of money into wealth."  There's no indication that this wealth was created before her marriage.  I'm pretty confident that Op woudl have mentioned it if that was he case, and based on the ages involved (son is 18 or so, father is around 50), it's likely that this is truly family wealth - money made by one partner during the course of the marriage, as opposed to separate property either inherited or acquired before marriage.  As such, it isn't "her" money, it's *their* money.

If you disagree, consider that you are arguing that money earned by the higher-earning partner remains that partner's sole property.  So all those law partners out there, making $1m+ each year - their salaries are just theirs, and not their spouse's, when they divorce, right?

I didn't think so.  [/quote]

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