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[quote=Anonymous]The “it’s just open communication” line of thinking in this thread is wild.

First, the [i] very act of discussing[/i] a desire can change the dynamic of relationship in a way that can’t be changed back. If your husband came to you and expressed a desire to sleep with your sister or your best friend, it would change your relationship with your husband even if you said no and he dropped it after that.

Second, the very act of asking potentially puts your partner in an untenable position. OP either holds his ground and comes off as insecure and possessive (note how quickly he was accused of being insecure in this very thread) or he has to go along with something he didn’t want.  You don’t get to put your partner in a potential no win situation and then hide behind open communication.  After many years of marriage, the vast vast majority of spouses know where their partner stands on these topics.

Finally, this pseudo-intellectual, just define marriage to be what you want it to be argument is sad. If you want to be married, then be married. If you want something else, don’t be married.  If you find out monogamy isn’t for you then simply don’t be married. [/quote]

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