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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is there so much antipathy towards people in marriages who choose to take care of their children  as their primary and best use of their time on earth. We only get one shot at parenthood. Children are our legacy on earth when we die. The total lack of respect for people who choose to prioritize their time for  their family over earning more money is shocking to me. [/quote]

Sigh.[/quote]

Because women are fully capable of succeeding in the workforce and as mothers.

Because there is zero evidence that staying home has any long-term benefit for the children.

Because marriages should be built on a foundation of equality and respect.

Because we all know someone like OP - a family friend went from a successful law career to SAH to ilving on a friend's couch.

I agree with the earlier PP who said have some pride.  It's 2019 and we still don't know that a man is not a financial plan?[/quote]

Clearly DP, you should never, ever SAH and you should never, ever have a SAH spouse.  The only way that arrangement works is when both the husband and the wife value and respect what the other spouse is doing.  That would simply not be possible with your views.  [/quote]

Like OP's husband did?  Pretty sure she thought so at some point...

The evidence doesn't lie.  It even says that men whose mothers work are better spouses.  But keep making excuses as to why you couldn't POSSIBLY work and wonder why women end up like OP.[/quote]

What are you so grouchy about?  Seriously, for such a *HAPPY* person you sure sound disgruntled.  It is sad that Op's husband is calling it quits after 20 years of marriage bu[b]t Op will be o.k.  She will get half of the marital assets and alimony to get her back on her feet.  Sorry if that burns you somehow, but oh well...

Op will be fine[/b].[/quote]

I wish this were the case but we really don’t know this.  While it will probably turn out this way there is no guarantee.  Which is why you don’t quit your job and you do t work for free.  [/quote]

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