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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't want to read any more posts on DCUM blasting people who criticize those who estrange themselves from their parents for stupid reasons.  This post explains why we think you are entitled,  immature, and spoiled.[/quote]

It is not "estranging" anyone to not want to host-host for long/frequent visits while you have young babies in the house. No one is saying this MIL should not visit, or be part of the baby's life!

If she wants to visit, she may--as a guest, because guests aren't expected to help. Those visits are less frequent/for fewer days when you have the very real pressure and demands of a baby in the household. When the baby is older and the parents can more easily get into host-host mode, MIL can visit more frequently and for longer stays.

But NOW, when there is a baby in the equation, she can either stay in a nearby hotel, or visit less frequently/for fewer days, so as not to put a strain on already hard-working parents with a baby and a young child.

Don't try to make it about anything more than that. [/quote]
OP MIL is "allowed to come once every 2 months." For a close by person, certainly seems like a ton of time![/quote]

Maybe she can come over for a meal or something, or meet up at a restaurant or what have you. Why does every visit need to be overnight/multiple days?[/quote]

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