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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] This is OP. I just want to know when things will get better. For years I have been operating like a single parent during the week. DH doesn't help the kids in the morning (I let him wake up whenever he wants to), he doesn't help in the evenings (he comes home between 8:30-9:00pm). On weekends he is more involved. He will play games with the kids and take them to sports practice. We rarely do any family activities other than go out to lunch or brunch a few times a year. For years, I have taken kids on weekend outings, trips and visits to my family (DH will only come done for 1 night on major holidays). We never go out together and he doesn't like to socialize much with other families or couples. Just wondering what's the point of living this kind of life?[/quote]

You seem fundamentally unhappy - and not just from work/life balance issues.

I don't think you're wrong in wanting your husband to be more engaged with the family or to have some social life, but it doesn't really sounds like he'd be up for that even if he was working 9-5. [/quote]

This. If his outlook didn’t change when he became a father the first or second time then it won’t. Doesn’t matter if he has a big law job or a 9-5. Plenty of dads with 9-5 fill the rest with hobbies and guy stuff and still don’t spend time with family. 
You guys don’t do date night or anything together? Then frankly what’s the point? Do you have sex? Talk about anything other than kids, schedule?
We don’t live the mythical perfect balance but we sure try. And no no lucrative and 80hr week jobs here for those reasons. We each have busy times at work and travel and the other picks up the slack but we like spending time together with kids and together by ourselves and go to concerts, restaurants, museums etc. because we got married to be together (kids or no kids) and spend our lives together and share in everything. [/quote]

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