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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They’re washed up, old sea hags...[/quote]

Haha. Of course.

In all seriousness, yes, fertility is an issue, but it does vary. Personally, I may have good genes because my mother was 39 and my father 42 when I was born, and there was no problem. All of the women in my family have had zero fertility problems at all ages. There are more cases of twins in my family than there have been with infertility. Not sure if that's related. Maybe we just all have a ton of eggs.

One can be a feminist and not ignore biology. There are tradeoffs to waiting. Yes, you may have more money and stability to raise a child but the odds are less in your favor for fertility.

Attractiveness though, I do think that varies a lot more. Even if statistics from that OKcupid survey or whatever indicate that men as a whole prefer 20 year olds...some choose to date them because they find them less "demanding" and more free-spirited and more open to something casual and not seeking a husband. Sometimes, yes, the younger women are more attractive. In my case though, being completely honest, I am more attractive at 30 than at 20. When I was 20, I had acne, I was eating crappy college dorm food, and I looked like a whole lot of dumb. Now, I'm thin and strong, with clear skin, more well-groomed, more confident, more elegant, and more natural as opposed to caked-on makeup and stupid fashion trends. I know I'm not the only one like this.[/quote]

You at 20, had you actually taken care of yourself and put in the effort you put in now, would be better than your condition now looks-wise.
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Hard to say. We are are product of our surroundings, and a lot of other 20 year olds around me could be described similarly. Some people just peak differently. For the record, I was never overweight from my food choices, but I definitely eat healthier while independent and earning my own money. I'm about 5 lbs thinner but also more muscular, for whatever that's worth. 
Who knows when each person's looks would "peak" under ideal circumstances but in the real world, many 20 year olds DO look like a whole lot of dumb. They are more likely to try out silly trends that don't work, or to eat college dorm food, to live and dress on extremely low budgets, to pull all-nighters for exams, to go out drinking and partying. Maybe in our late 20s people diverge...some take better care of themselves, some are worse and give up. It depends on what you want in life.[/quote]

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