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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No regrets! I’m more proud of the wonderful young adults we’ve raised than anything else we’ve ever accomplished. They are all married and parents themselves and I really enjoy when they ask me for advice on parenting, investing etc. and OMG do I ever adore my grandchildren. For part of the year we all live less then an hour apart and it’s a perfect day for me when we are all together.

I do feel very sad for those who regret having children and I feel sorry for their children. [/quote]

I'm assuming none of your had special needs. Great for you. Please allow people to express how hard it can be. You can't understand.[/quote]

+1000 Completely different ball game. [/quote]

I have a special needs kid who is nonverbal so not high functioning. It completely disrupted and changed my life. I wouldn’t have it any other way. It’s like the unconditional innocent love and pure joy  that you have for your very young child only it lasts a lifetime. It was intense for a while, but  I’ve had more fun with this guy then I ever could have imagined having in a lifetime. 
I could care less about what my life used to be.[/quote]

You’re lucky, so far. [/quote]

Another SN needs mom here. People like you are the worst part of SN parenting. I don’t care if you are a SN parent yourself. You are so arrogant to think you know that the other shoe hasn’t dropped on Poor Naive Mom. Take your pity and stick it where the sun don’t shine.

Do I wish my kid didn’t have a major disability? Yes. But I choose not to dwell on it and honestly, she is so much more pleasant and fun than many typical girls her age. Not all kids, SN or not, are the same. Each family is a complicated equation that can veer into the positive or negative and changes over time.

No matter what your experience is with your own SN kids or someone else’s that you are using as a point of reference, you are wrong to tell another adult what her feelings and experiences are. You don’t speak for her. She knows her own self and you owe her an apology, though I doubt you have the insight or character to give one.

I agree with the dad who said having a challenging kid taught him a lot and he was no longer the self-absorbed arrogant jerk he once was. For me, having a disabled child that others look down on was painful but I am thankful that I won’t leave this Earth as the shallow and unaware person I once was.

It has changed me in ways I deeply appreciate. And I have a wonderful, adorable, loving daughter to enjoy. [/quote]

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