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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG.  A bunch of annoying, rich women bitching at each other.

If you actually take care of your children and home, meaning you actually clean your home, buy your groceries, cook your meals, manage the finances, etc., then you are a SAHM and can discuss the work you do.  I pat you on the back for your contribution to society.

If you are just a rich woman with a cook and someone to clean your home and a babysitter, you are just a lucky rich woman. You aren't what anyone would call a SAHM and you aren't doing any work.  Just be grateful and stop trying to pretend you are doing anything resembling work or deserving of any accolades.  Realize you belong to an unbelievably small group of people on this earth and thank your lucky stars. Or maybe go volunteer somewhere and give back to society.

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You are a prime example of people who are working to meet their BASIC needs. Only when you have successfully taken care of this need will you understand the need of others for self fulfillment and self-actualization.  You are not yet on that rung of ladder.

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I agree with the pp.  If you are not working and you are hiring all of your domestic duties done than you aren't really performing [b]the responsibilities of a SAHM. [/b] If you need to give yourself a title you are more of a "house manager". Your primary responsibility is to hire domestic help to do the work around your house for you while you spend your time pursuing leisure activities.

I quit working to be SAHM.  I doubt that I would have quit working to become a house manager.  But, to each their own.  And if that satisfies you and you can afford to do it good for you.[/quote]

You mean....parenting?

Why does anyone need a title? It’s not really a job.

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Supervising kids, driving them around, tutoring them, feeding them etc are responsibilities that need to get done.  You either hire that work done or you do it yourself.  Obviously, if you are at work you are not directly supervising your kid.  You have hired someone else to do the supervision because that is something that needs to be done.  Some childcare situations are better than others.  The same holds true for SAHMs.  Some are high quality, some are not.

My own parents both worked when I was kid.  I used to go to a sitter's house before/after school with a mixture of ages - the older kids (like me) usually spent a lot of time watching the little kids and I pretty much hated it.  If you tried to get a game going outside with the other older kids, the babies wanted to join in and you had to be very careful with them. Those memories certainly factored into my own decision to SAH.

However, today, I have come to realize that childcare options are so MUCH better and more varied than they were when I was a kid and I would be very comfortable working and taking advantage of those options.  Still, I think that for a wide variety of reasons, SAH worked best for my own family and if I had to make the same choice again I would probably make the same choice but it would not be because I think that sending kids to daycare is an inferior choice.  Because I do not.

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