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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]he’s still working. And if they are like me, their net worth is tied up with their home and retirement accounts- not accessible Monty in the short term. Frankly I don’t believe she should be forced to sell her home and while he is still working she gets alimony. [/quote]
It sounds like she really can't afford her home: she has no income! They should sell the house and split the assets, he could keep it (and buy her out), or she can get a mortgage to buy him out. Regardless, she should be forced to work: given that HE is forced to work... to pay her alimony.[/quote]

See, but heres the thing. You think its fair that they divide the assets equally, but they can't divide his decades of work, resume, reputation, and career security. She is left with zero work history, resume, and career security, so by dividing the estate and not factoring in earning potential, you aren't actually dividing the estate equally.  If he looks at his half of the nut and determined it enough to retire on, I'm guessing alimony would be moot. But if he doesn't see his half as enough, its likely that her half isnt enough for her either...and she isn't capable of earning enough to supplement because of her losing investment in the ex husband.

One thing I like about America is that forced labor isn't really a thing. [/quote]

You are missing a major point which is that she chose to sacrifice those things.[/quote]

Yes! And she did so knowing the very publicly available laws- which assured her alimony.

He presumably did as well.

Marriage is a contract. Those are some of its terms risks and rewards. They entered into marriage willingly. Who is anyone then to say taking what they are legally entitled to is showing “no pride”? It’s the fulfillment of the terms of a voided contract.[/quote]

The law is changing, and not in alimony's favor.  Look, if you have no issue being subsidized by someone who doesn't love or respect you, that's on you.  I personally wouldn't ever put myself in that situation.  Revenge is a life lived well, and all that.  Does his new wife drop off the check too?  *shudder[/quote]

I will make $275k this year and I negotiated an incontestable alimony schedule in exchange for limiting the duration to only 3 of the 8 years I was due. I bet on myself succeeding in that time and I banked every dime I got as alimony. It’s going directly into college savings for the kids, since he emptied theirs. 
He isn’t remarried, he is an addict.

I appreciate that you would not put yourself in that situation. Revenge is indeed a life lived well- but when you haven’t worked in some time and you have kids and you are trying to keep some semblance of normalcy - rather than being thrust immediately into daycare I could transition into a job that worked as a single mom as I have custody.

Look if it’s not for you that’s totally fine and I get it. I just get the sense that you find alimony a moral issue. I don’t, I see it as simple contract law. Everyone has a different risk tolerance why should I care about yours as it doesn’t affect me in any way?[/quote]

Most women are not in your situation where they will make $275K after being a SAHP.  At best, I'd make $40K.[/quote]

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