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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"you have to get to the bottom of what's going on at mom's house that SD doesn't feel comfortable there. Teens are very self centered and often times only see their own point of view in a given situation. What's actually happening may be very different that what she says is happening. This is easily resolved by having a conversation among the adults and also saying to SD "we'd love to have you here but let's get to the bottom of what's going on at your mom's house b/c you'll still be spending time there too and we want to make sure you're comfortable when you see her for visits."

This is what I would do.....teenagers tend to twist facts to their own advantage and she is probably acting out at home and that is why she is confined to her room. Have your DH chat with bio mom to get to the bottom of this. I have a step-DD and she is constantly wants to be #1 in the house. She lives with us full time, as bio-mom is not a capable adult. The tears get turned on every time she does not get things her way and my DH falls for it a lot. She tried to pull a fast one the other day by completely twisting my kind words towards her and going behind my back to complain to my DH (her father) of me being unkind and not caring. She forgot my MIL heard the original convo and my MIL stood by me and set the record straight. My step-DD always tries to do silly things, like get in the front seat of the car....to force me to ride in the back.  I make her move to the back....every single time.

You have every right to keep the current arrangement going "as is."

--signed, fellow step-mom.[/quote]

are you the step-mom who berated her SD for asking where the towels were? you're pretty awful.[/quote]

Yes. I am the "awful" towel step-parent. Teenagers (my own or step) are perfectly capable of keeping track and fetching their own towels. I certainly didn't ask my mom or step-dad to fetch me one. DCUM is so full of enablers![/quote]

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