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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD is arguing that the friction of not being invited to the sleepover is the lesser of the two evils, because 5 kids in the wider circle will be really upset if they're not invited to anything at all. We're new to the US and I'm not sure what the etiquette on this should be. Thanks.[/quote]

Your daughter thinks the other 5 girls she doesn't like as much will be grateful to be included at all? [/quote]

OP - [b]you need to remind your daughter that her birthday party is for people to gather around to honor her.  To give her attention.  To give her gifts.  To make her the center.  [/b]
For her to think she's doing the 5 excluded kids a favor by basically [b]letting them fawn over her [/b]and give her gifts is making me think she's already heading down the path of being a very self-centered girl.  She may not intentionally be a "mean girl" but she is heading down that path.

Second - if you decide to let her do this - you should at least make her tell the excluded girls that there is a sleepover following the party and they are not invited to that.  It let's those excluded girls decide if they want to spend time fawning over someone who doesn't think of them too highly.  Personally? I'd rather know (and decline your dd's "generous  :roll: " offer of the whole thing)[/quote]

What a warped view.  Who in the world thinks this is what a birthday party is for?  The birthday parties that I've had or my kids have attended have basically been for the enjoyment of the birthday kid and the friends.  The only time the birthday person really gets special treatment is when they sing happy birthday and cut the cake.  There is no fawning, no honoring....at birthday parties except for maybe when you celebrate your grandparent hitting some milestone birthday.  I hope this is all DCUM bubble world view as opposed to how the majority of people think IRL.  [/quote]

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