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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are making something not about you sooo about you. Do you tend to do that? Your answer may be somewhere in there.[/quote]

Now is not the time to start caring about how the family is included. This is your broker and his wife? She’s having a baby? You just congratulate them, be low-key supportive and play along with whatever her requests are. [b]I can promise you sil gives 0 cares about how you’re feeling right now.[/b] [/quote]

But isn't that the problem?  Everyone is accusing OP of making everything about herself, but when did it become ok for prospective parents to make everything about themselves?  I have a feeling that OP's SIL is going to be posting here in a year or so about how sad she is that her IL's don't spend time with her child the way they do with SIL's children.  Well, there's a reason for that.

I'm a sort of high-functioning introvert, so I get wanting some privacy, but "I'm an introvert" has become an excuse for being rude and selfish and not making any effort to include your family in your life until it suits you.  And then complain about how they don't jump when you call.  [/quote]

Frankly, keeping my business to myself does not express rudeness or selfishness. I don’t call my family, and I have never expected them to jump. I have spoken to my mother 3 times since 1989.[/quote]

Well, I wouldn't use you as the standard for a healthy relationship with one's parents.[/quote]

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