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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are making something not about you sooo about you. Do you tend to do that? Your answer may be somewhere in there.[/quote]

Now is not the time to start caring about how the family is included. This is your broker and his wife? She’s having a baby? You just congratulate them, be low-key supportive and play along with whatever her requests are. [b]I can promise you sil gives 0 cares about how you’re feeling right now.[/b] [/quote]

But isn't that the problem?  Everyone is accusing OP of making everything about herself, but when did it become ok for prospective parents to make everything about themselves?  I have a feeling that OP's SIL is going to be posting here in a year or so about how sad she is that her IL's don't spend time with her child the way they do with SIL's children.  Well, there's a reason for that.

I'm a sort of high-functioning introvert, so I get wanting some privacy, but "I'm an introvert" has become an excuse for being rude and selfish and not making any effort to include your family in your life until it suits you.  And then complain about how they don't jump when you call.  [/quote]

Well, it IS about themselves at the moment as at this point there is no actual baby, and it is the SIL Who is experiencing the pregnancy. The baby is theoretical in many ways, and SIL deserves to have her pregnancy her way.

Personally, I’m one of the people that loved being pregnant, but hated the way it seemed to make people think they could pry into my life. Was I puking? Did I have hemorrhoids yet? OMG, swollen feet and other weird things. Then the gory birth stories would invetiably come. No one wanted to just let me enjoy my pregnancy - I had to listen to their horror stories and empathize how hard pregnancy was (although mine wasn’t). I really kept mine under wraps as much as I could after the first few experiences.

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