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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I think it is fine to ask someone where they are from.  But if they answer "Boston" it is NOT fine to follow up with "No where are you REALLY from?" Or "But where did your parents come from?"[/b]

DC area is pretty transient so even better is to ask, did you grow up around here?

Best of all is just to talk about where YOU are from and let people share if they want to.  You have no need to know where this girls family immigrated from or when they did.  So you are just curious, which is fine.  But you can wait for a friendship to develop where the question wouldn't be at all rude.  Like if mom says her mother is coming for a visit and she needs to pick her up at the airport.[/quote]

I “appear” from elsewhere but grew up in the MD/DC area. 
“where are you from?”
“I grew up in AACo.”
“No, I mean where is your family from?”
“My husband grew up in moco. My parents were both born and raised in baltimore.”
“No, I mean... what is your country of origin?”
“My parents’ families both came from germany.“ insert death stare smile 
(I probably just outed myself)

The above conversation happens ALL THE TIME and i despise it.  
If “i grew up in aaco” is followed with “really, what part bc i grew up in catonsville” then it’s absolutely fine. But when i say “I’m from here” and you don’t believe me?!  Or don’t realize that there’s a long story there that I don’t want to get into at the cocktail party or over the copier or whatever?[/quote]

Where in Germany?[/quote]

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