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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Isn't the obvious compromise that your MIL be invited to the wedding/reception to help with the toddler and baby throughout and then you tell your family that you will stay for maybe 1-2 days after the wedding, but you want a low-key Christmas at home?

I'm a pp that was in a wedding 6 weeks postpartum and my husband stayed with my kids during the ceremony.  During the procession, my six week old (who was a super sweet and easy baby) had a huge spit up, soaking my husband and herself.  Luckily, they were sitting by friends who could watch our toddler while my husband and baby totally changed outfits (we were staying at the hotel where the wedding was taking place).   Six weeks postpartum is a time when you absolutely must have man on man defense going, imo (at least for a wedding or other formal event that is absolutely not a kid-focused event).[/quote]

I think the obvious compromise is that he goes alone, his wife stays home and her mom comes to help with the kids.  He doesn't have to miss the wedding and she doesn't have to go through the shitshow 6 weeks pp with an unvaccinated kid [b]and the threat of a kidnapping through Christmas[/b] hanging over her head.[/quote]

:shock:  :shock:  :shock: WTF PP you guys are insane and I'm so happy I'm not related to any of you. [/quote]

Quote OP: [quote]The wedding is the weekend before Christmas. So [b]if we travel back for the wedding, we will stay through Christmas and visit all of my extended family who will be in town for the wedding, and especially my parents. I believe this is a situation she is trying to avoid.[/b][/quote]

He said himself he's mad she won't suck it up and travel for the wedding since she likes his brother and future SIL, and then slips in 8 pages later that "oh yeah if we go we'll definitely stay for at least a week with my parents, who she has a bad relationship with."  This guy isn't just selfish, he's a manipulator.  And even after 80 or so people telling him he's being unreasonable, he reveals more unreasonable demands while simultaneously digging his heels in.[/quote]

I called you insane because you apparently think that if OP takes his two year old they will be in danger of being kidnapped. Or did you ignore my bolding of your insane line?

So many people on here have crap relationships with their DH's family and want to justify atrocious behavior that attempts to isolate him.

If you don't like your in laws that sucks but unless they are abusive or have ebola you should be trying to NOT be an obstacle between your DH and your children having a good relationship with them. [/quote]

Saying "I just want her to travel to this wedding, it's important to me" and then later saying "of course we'll stay for a week and spend Christmas with my extended family" is why she isn't sending her toddler.  He's saying it's for a weekend but threatening to kidnap the kid through the holidays.

I love my in laws.  I just recognize a manipulator when he confesses all over a comment thread.[/quote]

So what was with the kidnapping line?[/quote]

He's saying she's being unreasonable for not letting him take the kid for a wedding.

8 pages later he admits if he goes for the wedding, of course he's going to stay for the week of Christmas.

She's not being unreasonable, he was basically threatening to kidnap her + both kids (or just the kid he takes) for the whole week of the holidays.  It was never about just a wedding.  (And even if it was, she's perfectly within her rights to say she's not up for the trip that soon after giving birth.)  You trying to turn it into parental alienation while ignoring what he's actually doing is what's insane.[/quote]

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