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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's a big difference between people who met their partners later in life and those who choose to postpone their child-rearing to enjoy married life for a decade or more prior to having kids.

The first isn't a choice, the second is, and the choice has consequences. In essence, the second type of parents prioritized their own careers and adventures over their children getting to spend as much quality time with them.

You may not see that now, but I guarantee your children will. I have many friends with older parents. Some have lost their parents in their early to mid-30s. Others are about 40 now but have parents in extremely poor health (in care or with movement difficult).

That's really tough on children, and I wonder if so many people would wait so long to have kids to "build their careers and travel" if they understood what the future likely held. Everyone thinks they will be the 75-year old who is in perfect health and playing tennis 5 days a week, but that's the exception to the rule.[/quote]
This. I had my kids at 39 and 41, because that’s just the way life worked out (didn’t get married until 38, just never found Mr. Right until then). Raising kids as an older parent is fine, but the notion that people are doing this on purpose?!?! Crazy to me. [/quote]
You did it on purpose. You could have had kids earlier with someone else, or on your own. You chose not to. So asinine to question other people's choices when you and they have different circumstances and experiences . DO YOU and stop trying to tell other people they are crazy .[/quote]

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