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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does your husband's mother still live in the home he grew up in? This could also be about gathering together in a place with many family memories.

And in regards to the post above about control, to be fair, that goes both ways. Sending invitations seven months in advance can also be seen as a way of controlling where everyone goes for Thanksgiving. 
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OP here. Yes, she still lives in that home. But rather the point is that my husband and I--and other members of the family--want to make some new memories and traditions.

Again, I'm only trying to control what we can control: we are hosting Thanksgiving in our own home. For the first time as a married couple, in seven YEARS. Others are welcome, and it would be lovely to have them, but even if they all end up at MIL's, that's fine with us. We are discontinuing our participation in an unfair dynamic that we dislike and frankly resent. We will still come to MIL's for some holidays, but not ALL, and others can do as they wish.[/quote]

It sounds like there is more going on then just wanting to have everyone at your house.  When you write about, "unfair dynamic that we dislike and frankly resent," it sounds as though you are unhappy to have to spend time with her. This might work out as a way to avoid her presence every other year if she decides to continue to have a Thanksgiving meal at her house.

On the alternate years, does your family typically have dinner at your house?
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