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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think if you live in a country where the culture is to take off shoes, it's fine to expect people to take their shoes off. But if you are living in a country where that is not the cultural tradition, it is not polite to expect people who are not your own family or very intimate friends to take their shoes off.

Many people in the US see taking off shoes in public as impolite and disrespectful of others with whom you do not have a family type relationship. Respect can equal a certain level of formality to some, and walking around shoeless equals zero formality, and thus respect to them. 
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I wonder if it's a regional thing. My dad's family is from the midwest (Michigan) and never take their shoes off. I was raised in Philadelphia and all my East Coast friends and cousins were raised to take their shoes off. My West Coast friends, the same. Plus, many of us studied abroad in Asia (Japan for me) which cemented the custom even further. The posters who are insisting that leaving shoes on is American culture -- where are you from and how old are you?[/quote]

Grew up in the Northeast; raised by a Southern dad (a very formal guy) and Midwestern mom. I'm 52.

I also write thank-you notes, insist on (almost) nightly family dinners in the dining room, and don't think children should call adults by their first names until the adults ask. [/quote]

I'm the "regional thing" PP. I am 37. Also write thank-you notes, insist on family dinners and my kids formally asking to be excused, and think children should never call adults by their first names unless it's a close family friend who asks them to do so. We use the standard Mr. or Ms. First Name.

I consider myself well-educated and reasonably well-informed about the world and social issues. Still, was raised to take my shoes off in my own home and ask if I should do so in another person's home (and, of course, abide by their preference). And we keep a 90% shoe-free home.[/quote]

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