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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For the gun owners, if I expressed concern over guns, might you also be worried that it's because my kid is curious/shows interest in guns? (my actual kids are 1 and 3, so not an issue now). My nephew is 8 and a curious kid, and I think that if I owned guns I would want to know that the kid might be vaguely interested, and I would want to be aware to ensure the kid doesn't go hunting for them...[/quote]

My boyfriend has a gun.  Our bedroom and bathroom are the only things on the very top floor of the house.  The gun is in his closet.  The kids know they are never to bring friends up to that level of the house.  They know they are to tell us if they can not control their friends and need adult intervention. [/quote]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly I wouldn't expect someone who had guns in the house to be responsible about locking them up.[b] Almost all of those people assume that nothing will happen[/b] - that's the reason they allow guns in the house. They ASSUME they're safely locked up and that their kids don't have the combo or can't access the key, they ASSUME the kids know never to go into the room that has the guns and ASSUME their kids are good kids who don't disobey the parents, they ASSUME their kids aren't the type of kids to try to impress other kids, assume their husband could never ever get distracted by something important and forget or not be able to secure the weapon after using it or maintaining it and therefore leaving it accessible to the kids JUST THIS ONCE, etc. And then they're a statistic and say on the news "but I never ever thought it could actually happen to US!"

So I feel like it's a bit of a pointless exercise asking them anything. It would be pretty rare for any parent of a younger child to say "yeah, we have a gun and the kids can easily access it but they know not to, so don't worry".

They will always lie and/or assure you that there's NO WAY the kids could POSSIBLY access them.

Personally, I just don't let my kids go somewhere unless I know the parents pretty well. I'm the type of person who talks about important stuff and doesn't just make small talk fluff all day, and I can usually trust the reading I get from people. Accidents can always happen of course, but I do what I can to minimize risks of not just gun casualties but other things that I'm concerned about too.[/quote]

Every single person I know who has guns does have them stored in a completely safe manner.  And many PPs who have posted on here state the same.  [b]None of those people are relying on assumptions to keep their own children safe.  [/b]They're relying on the precautions they have taken to store their guns so that children cannot access them.  Your sweeping generalizations make you look like more of an idiot than the people posting about how people knowing they have guns is a safety issue.[/quote]

Even this very thread (on a forum that is heavily skewed towards highly educated, high SES people) has examples of people who are indeed relying on assumptions to keep their own children [u]and those of others[/u] safe.

Your sweeping generalizations make you look like an idiot. Maybe you could learn to read and think before you post.[/quote]

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