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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP who can't come in the current wife's house. If the worst issue you encounter with your ex-husband's wife is that she states her preferences regarding whether you enter her house or not, you should be grateful. If she's good to your daughter, good to your ex, that's a win. It sounds like it's hard for you to let go of control, and you are overreacting, and then projecting it as some huge problem that hurts your daughter. It's you making it an issue because you are the one hurt that you can't control things. [/quote]

I don't put my kid in the middle. If his preference is that I not come to his house, he can bring her to me or we can meet at a neutral location. It's totally up to him. I do think that it was irresponsible to communicate to a small child that their other parent isn't allowed to come inside. As I mentioned, she's generally a good person and I appreciate that the woman he married isn't a complete mess, that she's kind to my daughter, etc.

I'm actually not overreacting to anything. The situation I described happened 3 years ago and occurred when I came over at his request and was made to stand outside in the rain without notice. Had he mentioned that she didn't want me coming inside, I would have called from the car/suggested we meet somewhere else/any of the things we have done since then, but I literally found out about the issue in the moment and was caught flatfooted. Since then, I have respected her boundaries about her space and have not attempted to be friends with either of them. We only communicate about DD, and for the most part, that communication only happens via email because she isn't comfortable with any other kind of interaction. Since DD is older now, our schedule is structured around school. I haven't seen my ex in person since before Christmas and likely won't see him in person until I drop DD off at his house when we return from spring break next month. You think I'm "overreacting" because I posted on an internet message board about my experience in response to an OP suggesting that it's wildly inappropriate for her husband's ex to come in their house. My personal feeling is that it's better to be gracious and cordial with people who are involved in your child's life, including making them welcome in your house for short periods of time for reasons pertaining to their child. [/quote]

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