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This is a ridiculous mentality. 'Parent' is not a sacred anything. If by parent you define it as the people who create the genetic material that makes up a child sure only two people can be a parent. But plenty of biological parents are complete pieces of crap and plenty of step parents step in and become, in the eyes of the CHILD (which is what really matters) a parent.

Regardless of who gets to make legal decisions, a stepparent is a parent. A parent that gets less thanks and has less legal standing.

If the stepparent has taken the time to have a deep and meaningful relationship with the child then saying 'nobody cares what you think' is rude and unnecessarily hurtful. Sure there are plenty of horrible stepparents like the woman that makes the PP stand out in the rain, but there are also plenty of loving and inclusive parents.

I come from a blended family and IMO literally NOTHING is gained by getting in the trenches with these stupid titles and 'who's more important' pissing contests. In fact, in my experience, which is actually quite extensive with this stuff, the more inclusive you are, the more you treat everyone like family and ignore that stuff, the more love you push into the family instead of discord? The better.

I say this as the kid. The kid who has brought my family together more than my parents by choosing to be inclusive at every event instead of exclusive and who has decided to hold my parents to a high standard of civility.[/quote]

There is nothing rude or hurtful about telling people which decisions they do and do not get to make. Why would a stepparent get equal thanks or standing with the parent? He or she will get that with his/her own children.

I don't think this conversation is about parents who abandon the genetic child and allow the stepparents to step in and fill the void. The scenario here is two normal parents who happen to divorce and remarry to other people.  These parents, yes, are sacred.  Their current spouses are well intentioned adults, assuming they are. No more. This doesn't mean they can't have deep and meaningful relationship with the child - teachers can do that, neighbors can do that, parents of friends can do that. That doesn't give them equal standing to parents.

You can treat them like family. That doesn't make them family.[/quote]

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