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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone involved in this entire situation seems horrible TBH.[/quote]

Don't forget that the original invitation wasn't worded that way and was apparently completely appropriate. And then people checked that it was fine to bring kids to a coming-of-age drinking party that the OP acknowledges the hosts were "going all out for". So they said no. And then people were suggesting that since they weren't allowed at the party, then the host should pay to set up another party for the kids. And then he said no. Or the hosts should at least have a babysitter there to mind the kids. And evidently there were several people who were being pushy about it, which means there must have been even more people out there who just assumed it would be fine and intended on bringing their kids without even checking.

I can understand the host losing it. Especially when you see that OP clearly distinguishes herself from the "inappropriate" members of the family despite being entitled and totally out of line, so you can just imagine how bad the rest of them are.

Since a classy invitation and then a further clarification of "adults only" didn't work for at least several people, he did the only thing possible to ensure that there wouldn't be children there and met rude with rude. Sometimes you really do need to speak people's language if you want them to understand you.[/quote]

There's just no excuse to send a message like that to an entire party. Especially as a host. Publicly humiliating and shaming people like that, regardless of whether you think it was warranted, is not polite behavior for the host of a party to be expressing. This entire party is now defined by this guy getting into a facebook fight with his family over whether or not kids are invited to a kegger. In what world is this not a mess of crappy behavior?

Lets turn this around to this being a destination wedding and the bride sends out a scathing message to all the invitees telling them that "NO she will not pay for her cheap guests' airline tickets and she will not tolerate being asked about it. Anyone ELSE who asks me about it will be disinvited from the wedding. "

Everyone would be calling her a b$(#$ bridezilla.

1) OP sucks because she inserted herself where she doesn't belong
2) Host sucks because he's just exceptionally rude and entitled and instead of handling this privately publicly excoriated people
3) People who asked a young idiotic man to organize babysitting for their kids during his rager are idiots
5) People who didn't accept no for an answer and started badgering about babysitting suck even more than the rest of the #3 crowd
6) Cohost who allowed idiot young man to taint the entire event by starting it off on this aggressively obnoxious foot sucks
5) IYM's parents suck for not intervening and telling him not to suck so much[/quote]

Your analogy doesn't apply at all. First, it wasn't specifically emailed to an entire list of people, it was posted as an update to an invitation on Facebook.

The biggest thing you're missing though is that this is a 21st party. It's NOT a wedding designed for a bunch of young and much older people as a family-style gathering. It's a 21st party for a bunch of kids who want to drink and celebrate being young. They are the ones that are the target audience for the party, not the host's uptight extended family with children. The real invitees (i.e. the friends) would not be offended in the slightest. So the "entire event" is NOT tainted. They'd think it's funny that someone would seriously expect a frat party style of event to cater to kids. The only ones offended are the host's extended family, and obviously the host doesn't care. After realizing that they were going to ruin the entire event by bringing kids, the real invitees wouldn't care either, nor would the birthday person. They'd be appreciative about the nice save so they can still enjoy the party.

The only mistake the host made was inviting family in the first place. Then again, if they knew how obnoxious the family would behave, I'm sure they wouldn't have. [/quote]

How old are you? Emailing the invited guests to a wedding is absolutely analogous to sending a message to everyone you invited to a party on facebook. Did they just randomly invite all of facebook?

And I get it, its a 21st birthday party. I would not have asked if my baby could go to such a party. Did you miss numbers 3 and 5 (apparently I hate the number 4) on my list? It doesn't matter though. Bad behavior on your part does not justify bad behavior on my part. Especially when that additional poor behavior will have ripple effects out to all the rest of the innocent guests (like OP, prior to her meddling) making it an awkward and slightly tainted affair. If you wanted some crazy jello shot rager where you play a bunch of beer pong until you puke then fine don't invite any of the olds. If you're having a big party where you're inviting a lot of family accept that you're going to have to deal with some family drama.

What you don't seem to realize is that [b]when it was just some annoying family members badgering party organizer about babysitting, only AFM and PO were in the middle of this and feeling upset.[/b] Now there is a crazy facebook post that is giving EVERYONE invited to the party an opinion and creating bad feelings. That is a BAD way to plan a party. ESPECIALLY a party where you are expecting people to come and get wasted. There will be a fight at this party now, I bet you.[/quote]
This.  The annoying family members were in the wrong, unequivocally...right up until the party organizer decided to blow up FB.  Now, people who wouldn't have dreamed of bringing their children are reading this and are getting a bad taste in their mouth.  Many of them, unlike OP, won't say anything to the hosts, but they'll be thinking less of the organizer and feeling kind of awkward about the whole thing.  The organizer could just as easily have handled this privately and/or posted a public message that conveyed the same message without being a dick about it.  He is perfectly right about the underlying substantive issue--no kids, no babysitting--but  wrong in how he handled it.  [/quote]
Nah, the people who weren't planning to bring kids or don't have any are secretly saying 'AMEN BROTHER!'. And they know exactly who was calling the host.
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