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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Step 1: Show real appreciation for everything she does for the family, house and you. Never stop doing this. 
Step 2: Start taking things off her plate and onto yours. Get to 50/50. 
Step 3: Start 2-3 date nights a month, you plan them and get sitter. Never stop doing this. 
Step 4: Go on sexy weekend trip. Tease her beforehand.

Point is, she lost attraction to something. Not you per se, but maybe some dynamic going on or building up.  COmmunication, picking up after you, trust in your word. You can do this![/quote]

HORRIBLE ADVICE, never ever works. You arent going to a55 kiss your way to desire. May be get some pathetic pity sex. OP needs to work on himself, not let his life revolve around her and reinforce her lack of desire for him. Its really transparent and begging is not attractive. If she sees he isn't hanging on waiting for a chance to have sex and is working on himself the realization he can and may leave will sink in. [/quote]

And jerk off in the meantime?[/quote]

Maybe, that's what he is doing now and would be doing following the sh**-show advice and only make him look weaker. Amazing how women's advice is usually do more for her, kiss her butt more its just more of the same that hasn't worked for these guys before. That must be why there are so many of the "nice guys" that bend over backwards yet no women want anything to do with them. Weakness is not attractive and blatant begging like that advice is no more attractive on a spouse than a random "nice" lonely guy.[/quote]

I don't think the two are mutually exclusive. I agree that choreplay isn't enough, but part of "working on yourself" is becoming a functional adult, which means taking on household duties. He can get in incredible shape and have women throwing themselves at hime left and right, but if at home he still acts like an entitled child and expects his wife to play mommy to him while he lounges around doing whatever he wants, she's still not going to be interested.

Best choice is to act similar to the way you did when first dating. You probably worked out regularly, dressed nicely, worked hard at your job, and had interests and hobbies. You also probably planned fun dates, pulled your own weight around the house if you had roommates, cleaned up after yourself so others wouldn't have to, showed appreciation when people did nice things for you, and were generally an enjoyable person to be around. [/quote]

"Choreplay" is nonsense, look at studies that show a correlation between the more housework a man does the less sex he has. (Despite the "kiss my a55 and maybe I will give a pity lay, until the novelty of choreplay wears off" crowd) Why do you make the assumption he is not a "functional adult? Typical female nonsense pretending men do not clean up behind themselves. If your husband "is not a functional adult" and a slob, thats your bad judgement for picking him. Your advice at the end is good but oddly women seems to think they do not need act similarly to when they first dated. Men act like that because you inspired them to act that way towards you in the beginning, not because breathin the same air as you is a treat.   [/quote]

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