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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guy here.  It's very wrong to generalize about all men.  I think most of us are able to conduct ourselves as gentlemen.  That still leaves a LOT of guys who are pigs.  Some of them are so lacking in social skills that they can't attract or keep a woman and so they are always on the hunt.  They scare most women away or offend them on a daily basis.  Their best prospects are a drunk woman at the end of the night.  But they also try the shotgun approach during the day, offending large numbers of women in the hopes that maybe one will respond positively.

These guys harass women where they work, where they shop, when they go out, even in traffic.  Besides actual physical contact or any other kind of sexual assault-regardless of your definition or legal definitions-women are subjected to constant threats by men who want to treat them as little more than potential sex partners.

As far as the question, are most women constantly harassed, hell yes they are.  And it pisses me off.  It should really anger any decent guy because it makes women defensive about any encounter with a man she doesn't know and it's happening to our wives, friends, sisters, daughters and mothers.  She has to be on guard all the time. Is the random guy going to interpret a friendly smile or conversation for flirting and try to take it to the next level?  Or does she need to put up a wall right away limit her interaction with the guy so it hopefully doesn't get to that level?

Have you really talked to any women about this?  A woman can barely get through the week without encountering new, or persistent offers from men who are everything from polite, to vulgar or even threatening.  Us men really have no idea and the women in our lives probably spare us from hearing about most of it.

We live in a different world where constant concern for our safety is not a thing.  I think nothing of going about everyday tasks like, putting gas in my car, walking through a parking lot, walking at night, or everyday interactions with other people.

If I go out with my attractive wife for a fun evening, and she dresses up for the night in a sexy dress or similar outfit, I can barely turn my back on her for a minute without guys hitting on her, if not hitting on her right in front of me.  They seriously don't care.  Especially as the night progresses and the drinks accumulate.  Taking her out dancing is a real eye opener into what women deal with but I 'll never see most of it.  At least in that situation, I can have a friendly guy to guy conversation and diffuse the situation.

The current conversations going on, stemming from Weinstein and snowballing from there are good, healthy, and about time.  Seriously, this shit needs to stop and decent men are our best bet to make it stop.  It's not just a woman's issue and it's not on women to solve alone.  It's an issue for all of us.

Men need too talk to other men about this.  Stop the boys club, or locker room mentality.  It's easy to do, effective and I've done it for years.  I'll isolate or even shame a guy in any group I'm a part of who acts that way and ask him to stop.[/quote]

Thank you.[/quote]

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