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[quote=Anonymous]I am 45.   My experiences that come to mind, not all harassment but things on the edge, are: high school teacher and I entering into a sexual relationship while I was underaged; being followed by men, sometimes with cat calls or comments but not frequently; forcible "date rape" first year of college (as in, standing with date in his dorm room and his pushing me over and forcibly raping me); several sexualized conversations with superiors at work mixed with offers to provide me with access to better assignments (both in law school and after while practicing law); strong relationship with a long-time mentor attorney who was high status in my field stopped immediately after I failed to back him when another female employee made allegations of harassment against him; and generalize comments made by colleagues I am not close with in public settings regarding my looks ("aren't you looking great today," "show us that beautiful smile," etc.), my marriage ("isn't your husband a lucky man" stated after I return to work from the gym, etc.), and general sexualized comments.  Not all of the is harassment by any means.  It varies greatly by context, the person involved, and the persistence despite social cues to stop.  i would guess that once a week or so someone says or does something that someone with a different outlook could report to HR is he/she wished, but I tend to shut things down quickly and without disruption so I've only had a few circumstances where I've needed to state directly to someone that he needed to stop inappropriate behavior.  And in each case it stopped.  But, to be honest, I have power many others don't.  I'm well-connected, professionally successful, and wealthy (being honest here is important to the point).  People won't mess with me too much because they know I won't (and don't have to) put up with shit.  If I didn't have those benefits, which most women do not have, things might be quite different. 
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