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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Okay, I see the point about being the second to burp. I'll be sure to work with my child so I can ensure he never again engages in Defiant & Disrespectful Burping (which was surely his goal).

I would bet, though, that if Sarah Sweetpea burped immediately after her lab mate did the same, she wouldn't have been told to sit for the last five minutes and lost 20% of the grade. This is a good lesson for my kid, though, in that he is annoying and therefore will be punished more aggressively. [/quote]

Op you just don't get it. I teach high schoolers so maybe I can explain.

First of all, we have 120 students and our own lives. We do not have time to single out individual students and pick on them just because. Please get that idea out of your head and out of your kid's. If I correct bad behavior one day t doesn't mean I don't like you. I can see you three hours later in a different context and be completely friendly and effusive. But HIS bad behavior impacts everyone else's ability to learn. THEY are my concern. Your kid's attention seeking stuff makes it hard for 20+ other kids to have a good classroom experience and yes, that is punishable. I may like your kid just fine. I don't like
him enough to let his need to be center of attention ruin all the other kids' learning time. He's not that special.

Of course he couldn't earn the clean up points. He was consistently, after repeated warnings to himself and other kids, engaging in inappropriate behavior. He was punished accordingly- get out of the way so the other kids can DO the work. He made that choice. Not the teacher. Him.

Finally- you obviously only care about your son. That's normal and expected and fine. Put  yourself in this teacher's shoes. She has to manage 22-30 rowdy middle schoolers and have them complete a lab. She is going to have to make decisions accordingly. That is classroom management and it's probably 75% of "good" teaching. YOU ARE NOT IN THE ROOM. It is nonsensical for you to Monday morning quarterback instructional decisions she had to make when she was in there. It is really rude and obnoxious for you to be offering your judgment on how reasonable or acceptable her management that day was when you weren't there and you aren't responsible for getting these kids to meet certain benchmarks. [/quote]

I also have a kid with ADHD, and I really hope he has more teachers like you as he goes through school. Too many of his teachers seem content to let him skate by without holding him accountable for him behavior, and it makes it really hard for me at home to convince him that eventually people will hold him accountable and that he needs to figure out how to manage his ADHD before then.[/quote]

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