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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]New poster and to me it's a bombshell.   My father was abandoned by his father, and my father expected my mom to stay home.   Trouble was, he didn't make enough money.  And what he earned he kept for himself.    We always had financial issues growing up and I learned to never depend on a man for financial security.    So I would never, NEVER stay at home.

Part of my father's insistence that my mother stay home is that he felt threatened by a woman making more money than him.   And at the time, my mother was.   So that's something I'd look for, too.  What type of power structure does he envision in the partnership/marriage?

Now, other women feel differently and feel secure in the fact their man will provide.    But then another question arises:  do you enjoy staying home with kids all flipping day?   Not everyone does.   So consider that, too.  And unfortunately, that's a hard one to gauge until you actually have kids and have to do it.

It's fine for this guy to want that.  And it's great that he has stated it up front.   But yes, it might be a dealbreaker.   [/quote]

Well, according to many of the posters in this thread you have unresolved issues from your childhood that you’re  now working through your family by rigidly stating you would “never, NEVER” stay at home. Personally, I have no problem with you learning from your childhood, but be prepared for many people to tell you that you need therapy. [/quote]

Absolutely no one said it's wrong to learn from your childhood. But continue to pout  and sulk like the moron you are.
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And nowhere did OP’s boyfriend suggest that he was hung up on his childhood. She said that “reading between the lines” he wanted a redo. From that little snippet everybody has jumped on idea that OP’s boyfriend needs therapy to work through unresolved issues. PP that I quoted expressed in much stronger terms how her childhood experiences continue to impact her view of the world. If it was fair to diagnose OP’s boyfriend as needing therapy it would certainly be just as fair to diagnose PP. But this is DCUM, where a man expressing sentiment X is always viewed in the worst possible light but a woman expressing the same sentiment is viewed in the best possible light. [/quote]

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