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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, why/how did tou sign up for this? Money? Would you say if it was about money (probably not)? I know someone in this situation, they abused the parent and stole everything the parent/family had, for terrible reasons - not least of which, she felt "owed". Not saying this is you, but it happens. Not everyone who takes a parent in has good intentions - some are truly awful.[/quote]

If you truly suspect someone isw doing this, then you step up to the plate and take care of your parent. Move the parent in with you.[/quote]

The parent is unwilling to relocate, and insists the parent beater/berater is "petfect".  [/quote]

[b]At some point it isn't a choice.  We forced my MIL to move[/b].  We were clear we couldn't take care of her long distance.  At that point she knew she ran out of options but it took years of convincing.  We flew out within a few weeks and moved her.   My MIL was far from perfect.  My husband wasn't close to her at all.  But you do it to set a good example for your kids as that may be you one day.[/quote]

+1 to this.  In what world are adult working children with kids of their own supposed to re-organize their entire lives around ailing parents, vs. the other way around?  I'm sorry, but I can't abdicate the care of my own created nuclear family for you.  And I'm not relocating my kids and putting them through that.[/quote]

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