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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would you marry someone who might get cancer some day? Would you marry someone who might start overeating and gain 60 pounds some day? Would you marry someone who shows no sign of mental illness until a brain injury at age 50?

This is such an offensive topic to get in to. Might surprise you OP, but there are many, many people with mental illnesses who frequent DCUM. I'd probably marry most of them before I wanted to marry someone as ignorant as you. [/quote]

Would I marry someone knowing I might need to support them or have them support me during a long illness, death or illness of a child, death of our parents, injury after an accident, yes.

Would I marry someone who already had mental issues? No.

I look at it like this. Marrying someone who is already in a wheelchair or needs significant physical daily assistance is a very different choice from marrying someone knowing that there is a small chance that they could be physically or mentally injured in the future and that you would stick by them.

Some people buy houses they know need a lot of work. Some people know they are not capable of taking on that type of work but are still willing to be homeowners knowing that some repairs will pop up over the life of the house. Some people can't deal with any issues or repairs and choose to rent. I don't see why it is such a bad thing to honestly acknowledge the types of challenges you want to tackle in your life and when you have an option to minimize challenges making the choice to do so.

Of course mentally ill people and people with disabilities are worthy of love, affection and respect. However not all able bodied neurotypical people are capable or willing to provide that love and support. I don't see why people should feel bad about not wanting to marry someone with significant mental challenges any more than not wanting to marry someone who is tall, short, fat, has seasonal allergies, or whatever is  deal breaker for them. [/quote]

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