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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Adults know life isn't fair, that people who wrong you rarely apologize, and come to terms with that. [/quote]

She has come to terms with it. By choosing to not spend time with those people anymore. You can't change others, just yourself. And you also shouldn't go through life letting people treat you like shit.

What kind of example is she setting for her kid? What is she supposed to say when the kid finds out that the grandparents paid off all the siblings' tuition fees except theirs? And now they need to struggle financially as a result? And that's okay, because we'll all just get along and play nicely and pretend that it didn't happen? And oh yes let's listen empathetically to Aunt Jenny whinge about what nice shoes cost these days and can you please pass the salad. You think her kid will be well adjusted after that?

Even JUST for the kid, both her and her husband need to demonstrate (with actions, not just words) that unfairness is shit. This little piece of injustice in the world is something that they can make a stand against. Good on her. Maybe her kid will grow up with a moral compass and a backbone. [/quote]

I don't know if you're OP sockpuppeting, or if you're projecting your own issues, but you seem to have your own weird mercenary agenda. There's zero reason for anyone to bring up who paid for whose college 20 years ago among the grandchildren. That's not their business and they shouldn't care or be dragged into it. And if some of the family gets more money than other members, too bad. You're not entitled. Your kids aren't entitled. You think you are, but you're not. And the kids would rather have connections with family than make some "statement" and take a "stand" because your nose is out of joint about the tab you're keeping. Letting go of unfair treatment regarding money within family doesn't mean you have no moral compass or backbone. It means you value people over money. And that's a good lesson to teach your kids.[/quote]

This person is not sockpuppeting for me, and while intellectually I know you are right, it is nice to have the other person's understanding. Funny enough, DHs family now loves to speechify about valuing money over people - to the point of one of his siblings proposing to stop getting gifts for the kids at Christmas because "people are more important'. [b]Mind you, none of us are poor, we are all comfortably off, [/b]but these people wanted to save $. Thankfully, that got shot down.

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What in the actual f@ck, lady??

You're comfortable off, yet you're still gripping on about money (that was never yours or promised to you) from 20 years ago?

That is just THE most bizarre, egregious & self righteous thing I've ever heard.

I'm gonna go out on a limb and say the OP is definitely an only child.[/quote]

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