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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's really telling that you note that the SN run in your husbands side rather than yours. It sounds like you have a lot of misplaced anger and resentment.[/quote]

I actually agree that this was a strange thing to say. And I do think that the anger and resentment is misplaced. It should be directed towards her husband. Not his family. But that doesn't mean she has to have anything to do with his family. He doesn't need to apologize for them. But he also can't force them on her either. (Meaning expecting her to go there and act happy or whatever.)

I think her husband needs to apologize for putting her in a position where she feels obligated to pay huge amounts of money for his debt because he apparently couldn't pay it himself when there was 'free money' on the table that he acted like he didn't want or need. He wouldn't take from his parents/siblings but he didn't seem to have a problem taking from her. And it sounds like he's maybe continuing to 'take' even more now with a bit of gas lighting (oh it's all okay, what's your problem anyway, let's just all be friends and be happy).

But even though her resentment should be directed at her husband, she doesn't need to have anything to do with his family of origin. Her kids will have other friends. It's not like it's the cousins or no socialization at all. It sounds like they're not particularly close or supportive extended family anyway, or they simply wouldn't have felt comfortable having the unfairness like that. I could never be on EITHER side of something like that and be okay with it. It can still be corrected even now. If they cared. But they don't. So it continues. And so she has a right to not have anything to do with them.
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