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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I again reiterate you didn't actually want sex. You wanted him to have an impetus to help you out. The problem seems to me though that YOU think it's necessary to stay up till midnight killing yourself with 2 dinners, breaking down boxes, laundry, FIVE FACE TIMES, picking up kids rooms, and cleaning for the cleaner. He doesn't- nor would I! Damn, I would not be blowing my whole evening on this crap till midnight and I am the wife here. It's ludicrous.

The only way this was going to work for him is if he felt your carrot of sex was only going to be achieved by pulling a Cinderella alongside you on a Wednesday evening. Either he didn't pick up on that or decided not staying up til midnight doing chores was preferable to having sex. It's as simple as that. He didn't know the trade off was chores til midnight or he didn't deem the trade off worth it.

Sex was clearly not the end goal for you. You chose to break down trash instead of go upstairs with your husband. Think about that. Then he went to bed and instead of going too you hopped on dcum. [/quote]

Thank you. By the time all was said and done, I was disappointed and frustrated that he didn't help out without my requesting his help. By that point, no, I would say I did not want to have sex with him. Before I had to break my back doing all those things, I did.

Some of the things I mentioned, like the FTs, were extras that are atypical for a weeknight. But every couple nights we do FT a set of grandparents-all our family live on east coast and we no longer do. FWIW, half those birthday calls last night were to his family, while he was doing something else like exercising.

All of those things had to get finished last night because of some circumstances like birthday and cleaners coming. He knew that. Why is it that I am not making sex a priority when he is also not prioritizing? Per our many conversations up to this point, he knows I need help with these chores. Instead he prioritized watching tv and working out. Neither of which I had the opportunity to do, either. [/quote]

Sex is for you as well as him.  Once we had kids, neither my DH nor I exercised during the evening hours - that time is the only time we have as a family. Your DH should exercise with you and the kids, or else early morning or on his lunch hour.   No TV until all household chores are done.[/quote]
That's a recipe for obesity. Exercise is important for a healthy relationship. [/quote]

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