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[quote=Anonymous]OP - I  haven't gone through all the posts, but the ones I have read seem a little extreme to me.

I wouldn't throw the book at your DH yet.  While I agree that at this point, it doesn't seem as though he is invested in family, your child is only 8 months old.  Many many fathers have a hard time adjusting to family life especially when mommy is the primary caregiver for the first few months of a baby's life - especially if you breastfeed.

Not to say that you wouldn't benefit from counseling (b/c let's face it, most of us would) but I bet many of these problems will resolve themselves when your 8 months old starts to walk and talk.

I'm of the mindset to drop the schedule as well.  Honestly, Moms just do more of the child-rearing, especially during the early years.  Infants/toddlers just want their mommies more than their daddies.  I have a 4.5 yo, 2.5 yo and a newborn and more times than not, I do the early morning AND evening routines b/c it just goes smoother if I do.  My kids want mommy (and yes, I work full time as well).

That said, there is nothing wrong with telling your DH that you need some free time yourself and scheduling it out with him.  But I think this is different than a rigid schedule of "his time" and "your time".[/quote]

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