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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm not trying to be harsh, but you and your husband need to get your heads out of your butts before your son begins to understand that the time that is spent with him is looked at as a burden.  Even though you see it as trying to be fair and not assume more than your share of the responsibility, I'll bet that it won't feel that way to your child.  Like I initially suggested, you should pitch the schedule.  Seriously, I've never heard of scheduling parental duties like that.  I know that you want some time for yourself and so does your husband.  That's completely natural and totally normal, but scheduling that way just doesn't seem like a good solution. [/quote]

Coming in here late, but respectfully, you're wrong.  Perhaps *you* feel like time spent with your child is burden, best shared, with no external activities allowed, but that doesn't have to be the case.  DW and I alternate getting up in the mornings, alternate putting DC to sleep at night, and on weekends, she gets the first and third Saturdays off.  I get the second and fourth Saturdays off.  Sunday is family day.  If something "special" comes up, one or the other of us will sacrifice the Saturday.

Frankly, time with DC is fantastic, is made *more* special by the fact that it's not 24/7 and some sort of unrelenting slog.  Many of our friends have similar arrangements.  But it requires a lot of respect, communication, and, yes, flexibility.  If you're constantly suspicious you're getting fucked over, it ain't gonna work.[/quote]

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