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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does it seem like identifying yourself as “codependent” is really just an excuse to be a selfish a-hole? [/quote]

The term is based in reality and has tons of merit.   I grew up in a home with great parents…and my dad was an alcoholic who depended on my mother to keep our life together despite his addiction.  She was 100% co-dependent and it really set a bad example for my siblings and I.  So, I’m 100% supportive of the book/concept and have lived it all myself. But JH makes it all “extra” and is throwing her daughter under the bus along the way.[/quote]

I 100% agree with this concept as well since I lived it with my parents. My mom enabled both my dad and brother for different reasosn. Unhealthy but how she survived.

But what I'm hearing is that Jen has lived a fake life for a long time, covering up and enabling. I think she was trying to keep an image together too. That's sad. But that doesn't mean she needs to thow her kids under the bus.

I think she can share this concept and self growth because she has a platform to share this info, but not bring in her kids.  Personally I'm fine with her sharing about Brandon,  he's an adult and can own the consequences.

My opinion:  In general, we give way too much credit to these influencers, athletes, celebrities, politicians, the very wealthy. They are fallible like anyone else.  Plus they usually aren’t all that smart— they have charisma, the gift of gab, a special skill that has nothing with being a good person or role model (don’t get me wrong- some are very good people and are authentic).  Jen was likely very popular, her father put her (and all her siblings) on an unrealistic pedestal and she is very pretty with a great inviting smile. She learned from an early age she could charm the pants off of anyone and used her gift of storytelling to make a great life for herself and her family. But, she isn’t immune to any of life’s pitfalls that we all are trying to avoid. When the trauma hit her, her entire life was and was already out there for all of us to scrutinize. And, we love to see a train wreck happen to celebs. But we gave her this power. She’s no different and no more special than any of us. But, we helped inflate her already overinflated ego that she’s always likely had. She’s smart, but she’s no genius. Why don’t we hold the truly genius of our population in such regard?  There are nerds and thought leaders who are brilliant- and we don’t pay them any mind. Why?  Because they’re normally introverted, socially awkward, perhaps don’t care for the latest fashion or ascribe to pop culture. Those are the people we should elevate- not a mega athlete, or super model, or a “Christian-y” woman from the Midwest/Texas who spins a good yarn.

And I'm pretty sure that I would be shocked or disappointed by all the authors , influencers, etc that I follow online. [/quote][/quote]

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