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[quote=Anonymous]It’s not fair to guilt moms and dads who have no choice about using daycare.  And it’s also not wise for one parent to leave the workforce permanently when their spouse might die, leave, lose their job, etc.

BUT families who take 1-2 years parental leave are making financial sacrifices that daycare families are not. It’s rude and wrong to say they are fools for doing so when research suggests it’s healthier for kids, especially very young ones, to spend less time in daycare.

There are other options besides this endless sahm vs wohm war..  We can start by having employers offer more parental leave/part time/telework options between the ages of 0-2, (even if unpaid/partial pay) and stop blacklisting people who have left the workforce for that long for childcare.  Start encouraging fathers to take this leave more often.  since it is  acceptable to take 1-2 years off for a grad degree, or even to try starting a business or consulting firm, patental leave should be just as acceptable.

Also, many people on this board are hhi over 200k.  EVEN in the DMV area you can afford to take 1-2 years of parental leave if you buy a more affordable home, either further out or a townhouse instead.  There was just a thread in real estate about a couple getting flack from friends and realtors over buying on one income instead of two (townhouse vs sfh).  This mentality is the actual problem.  People are sacrificing parental leave for ‘the right house’ in ‘the right neighborhood.’  Young married couples should not box themselves into these maximum mortgages.

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