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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sad to live in a county that does not allow kids to walk to and from a park without getting paranoid people calling 911 and getting pulled over by police.  My siblings and I definitely were this age on our own playing outside daily.  And not right in our front yard.  As soon as the training wheels were off, we were free to ride to friends homes, the park, the baseball field, and the convenience store.  The last 3 were at least a half mile away and the store was crossing a busy 2 lane road.  We didn't have cell phones, we had watches and were told what time to be home.  Made a lot of friends and had a lot of fun.  Great childhood.   Kids these days are so coddled and structured it is scary.  And the fact that so many of you think that walking a mile back home from a park is abuse is even scarier.  [/quote]

Maybe that should be written into the law. As soon as a child can ride a bike without training wheels.  :roll:

Your sadness is lost on elitist children, you should be sad for children who go days without food not hours. [/quote]

Why can't we be sad for both children?  Why can't we work to improve the lives of both children?[/quote]

Because 1 set of children lives far exceed the measurement for excellent.[/quote]

Not necessarily.  Children who grow up with too much supervision have problems, as well:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2014/09/02/how-helicopter-parents-are-ruining-college-students/?tid=sm_fb

[i]Bradley-Geist and Olson-Buchanan, both management professors, surveyed more than 450 undergraduate students who were asked to “rate their level of self-efficacy, the frequency of parental involvement, how involved parents were in their daily lives and their response to certain workplace scenarios.”

The study showed that those college students with “helicopter parents” had a hard time believing in their own ability to accomplish goals. They were more dependent on others, had poor coping strategies and didn’t have soft skills, like responsibility and conscientiousness throughout college, the authors found.

“I had a mom ask to sit in on a disciplinary meeting” when a student was failing, said Marla Vannucci, an associate professor at the Adler School of Professional Psychology in Chicago, who was that students’ academic adviser. Her team let the mom sit in, but in the end it doesn’t help. “It really breeds helplessness.”

Vannucci also had a college-aged client whose parents did her homework for her. The client’s mother explained that she didn’t want her daughter to struggle the same way she had. The daughter, however, “has grown up to be an adult who has anxiety attacks anytime someone asks her to do something challenging” because she never learned how to handle anything on her own.

These may be extreme cases, but parental over-involvement has been bleeding into college culture for some time now. “I think they need to know that they are actually diminishing their child’s ability to understand how to navigate the world by trying to do it for them,” Gibralter said.[/i][/quote]

Are yes, the old truism that if you don't let your kid walk a mile from home alone until they are eight you are a helicopter parent. Makes perfect sense.[/quote]

Not the PP but yes I think if you don't let kids go off on their own with friends and siblings, you are indeed a helicopter parent. There are just so many of you out there these days that you don't even see it.  As a matter of fact, a few decades ago, if you left your kid inside all day or followed them around everywhere they went, the other kids would have been so freaked out, another mom would have called CPS on your for being a nut job.   Could you imagine if all our moms followed us around on foot, bike, etc...  Wow! [/quote]

Oh well, because I didn't let my kid do that stuff until she was eight alone, I guess she's damaged for life. Strangely she seems to be super independent but who knows?[/quote]

Do you let your 8yr old go to the park alone, ride her bike all around the neighborhood, stay out until dinner time and you aren't 100% sure the location in the neighborhood she may be in?  Or is she only allowed a few houses away, must make contact with you every 30min, carry a cell-phone, etc...   There is a difference in what helicopters say is freedom and what truly is.  [/quote]

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