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Ironically, we largely had the opposite experience at Bronx Science and Stuy. The schools are huge so there are all types including the type you described, so not disagreeing with you and definitely not saying you are wrong. But we also found that both skewed way too heavily towards really socially awkward kids who were making strange jokes and who as an employer I would not stick within a mile of a client (I know they are only in HS but you get my point). My kid, who is far from the coolest kid out there but has very normal, mainstream interests and feels relatively comfortable interacting with a wide variety of people, looked at us and said "please don't make me go here". And this was at the accepted student event for one of them (we had had largely the same experience at the open houses for both schools). My kid was coming from a fairly diverse public middle school so it is not like they were totally sheltered or living in an UMC white bubble their whole life.[/quote]
Heh, we are having the opposite 'problem' - I also have a very "normal", well-adjusted, and socially comfortable child at a diverse public, and they  *loved* Bx Sci (Stuy felt a little less appealing, and maybe more awkward kids, yes). Now we, the parents, think that maybe the right private high school would align better , but it will be a long conversation should they get in.  Did your kid end up at Trinity or some other school?[/quote]

Private but not Trinity. Pained me to spend the money but I could see how much happier they would be elsewhere and wanted HS to be a pleasant experience. Unclear if outcomes will be better from private than if they had gone to SHSAT but so far they are having a great HS experience and doing very well academically and socially so I guess it is worth the money. We are financially in a position where we could afford it within reason - definitely not easy but not making us miserable either. If we were less comfortable financially (again, we are far from rich by NYC standards) I might have told them to deal with it and go public.

In addition to the unhappiness at the open house, the dislike of the public was compounded by the 4-5 kids of the same gender who they knew going there from local public schools, who would normally have been their "go to" friends starting out, were kids they really didn't like for various reasons (reasons which I totally understood) - and again, my kid is generally really easy going, gets along with almost everyone from a wide variety of backgrounds. So it was just a quirk of being the wrong kids in the wrong year. The school was big enough that I'm sure they would have found their people through activities or whatever else, but there were just too many others who they didn't want to be surrounded by in class all day.

And not saying that every kid at their private is their best friend. Plenty of kids they don't really like. But the vast majority are great and they have an excellent friend group. We were very careful in choosing privates - visited a ton, spoke to lots of people, and focused a lot on fit, often over "status." We tried very hard to meet kids who were already there and likely continuing on to get a sense of who their classmates would be.[/quote]

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