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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have just realized that a friend of 25+ years is a severe alcoholic. I talk to her daily and had not noticed it. I rarely drink so never really put two and two together. She's gone through a terrible divorce and other trauma, which have exacerbated the problem. As of now, she doesn't know that I've figured it out as I hesitate even saying anything bc she gets extremely defensive over any criticism and I know she won't listen. After losing four jobs (always excuses saying she quit) and her appearance getting worse and worse, I'm quite fearful as to what lies ahead. I've been in touch with mutual friends who all have seen concerning behavior and I've just recently put it all together. I feel like a fool for not seeing this earlier. She has lied to me about so much, I'm not sure I can get past the deceitfulness and continue the friendship. I have no experience with interventions or best ways to handle an alcoholic. I don't think there is anything I can do, right? She doesn't eat, has a puffy face and belly and is stick thin now. She has aged 20 years in the past 5 years. I feel like I should do something, but what I'm hearing is that only she can decide to get help. I'm sad knowing that if she doesn't stop, she will die. Any advice appreciated.[/quote] You just reminded me of a df who I had only known for a few years. One day she said to me "you are drinking way too much. It's going to kill you. Have you considered going to an AA meeting? I would be happy to take you." I did not take her up on her offer but I did eventually make my way to AA. She did me a huge favor by saying "I'm going to say something you may not want to hear". She made me realize I wasn't fooling anyone. I was kind of mad at the time that she said it since we weren't that close. But her words stayed with me. I'm sorry for your friend. Sounds like she's at the stage I was at when I finally said I couldn't continue like that. Since then the drama in my life has diminished considerably and I'm just so much happier without alcohol.[/quote]

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