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[quote=Anonymous]I’ve been in your shoes. Your husband hates his job. His unhappiness corrupts everything. He wants a change. If he’s thought through what he hates about his current job and what’s going to be better in his new job, it’s worth considering.

My husband just hated his life, primarily having to work and be a middle-aged person with heavy responsibilities, stuck in a marriage with someone he was not compatible with and trying to live vicariously through his kids. He also really hated his job but could never, ever  muster himself to make a change, despite my repeated encouragement. He used to blame me for not figuring out for him what he should do instead of his current job/career. He enjoyed the money he made and spent freely, even as he hated the job. He became very angry, bitter, depressed, and verbally abusive. He eventually had a heart attack and then a stroke.

I’m not saying this is your situation. But what I am saying is that you and your DH can’t have it both ways. And you can’t just “get him to see” that he needs to stay in his current job. He’s deeply unhappy. Maybe it’s the job. Maybe it’s bigger than that, like he hates a lot of his life. I don’t know your relationship and I don’t know his other circumstances or life history. But I do know he’s not going to just snap out of it. He’s been soldiering on for whatever number of years. He only gets one life to live.

Among all this, make sure he gets a comprehensive physical checkup. [/quote]

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