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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Trouble is around 25-35 years ago when my Male friend group was getting married the Dad paying for the wedding was was the best investment there ever was. Even if blue collars, HS educated lived in a tiny cape and drove a pick up truck and dug ditches for a living paying for a nice wedding was his dream.

Why Girls married UP. Meaning overnight propelled the daughter up ther economic ladder.  It also ment with a high income husband their daughter could be a SAHM if she chooses and see grandkids, Dad and Mom have something to be proud of.

Women with a HS degree married college educated, Women with a MBA married a lawyer, heck a women I worked with was a junior Big 4 Partner at KPMG she married a Senior Partner at PwC.

And the grandaughers did hte same. My wife is beautiful. Both her parents had an 8th grade education, lived in a 1,200 sf cape. Dad did chip in on wedding. Not a great Dad but he knew to do that. Now my wife lives on a block of 2 million dollars homes is a multimillion, has very successful children college all paid for. He moved his daughter ahead three generations of wealth in one day. His other daughter ran off and married a guy at 20 and lives in a poor area, his son got caught up with a trampy hot to trot mama lives in a shoe box. But he planned .

My wife is from a very very blue collar town, no parent went to college. Most did not even graduate HS. Of her HS friend circle of pretty girls she is actually not that well off. All her friends are very wealthy. I mean they live in mansions and have boats, vacations homes, kids went expensive colleges. But all have one thing in common they paid for nice fancy weddings if daughter found right guy. MY FIL only chipped in much on my wedding. The other two kids he thought was a waste of money          [/quote]

Maybe that happens in flyover country or rural areas in the South, but not my experience or that of my friends. I got married 35 years ago and my DH and I have similar educations (I have an MBA, he has a masters). I have outearned him by a factor of 4-5x, but he has had high profile but less lucrative jobs (e.g., government). I can't think of any friends, male or female, who married someone who was not a peer in terms of education and/or work. And I can't think of any where the parents of the bride were paying for lavish weddings just to marry their daughter up a rung or two. [/quote]

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