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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP ghosted after she got enough to give the answer she wanted to give all along (no).

I am curious what OPs expectations are for the nanny on vacation and why she would assume the nanny wants to accompany her family to fancy dinners. The absolute last thing I want to do with my employer is go out for a fancy meal where I have to be “on”. [/quote]

I'm here, just enjoying watching this thread dissolve as the DCUM crazies come out from the woodwork.

We have a good relationship with our nanny. I think she would be offended if we did not include her in ANY restaurant meals, hence my original post. I agree with other commenters who pointed out we don't need to invite her to everything, particularly fancier meals.

I never suggested she is required to work 24/7 during the trip. I'm aware of what's market for taking nannies on vacation and we offered terms consistent with that.

But folks are right, we actually hate our kids so we're going to drop them off at the fire station tomorrow morning and enjoy this trip solo. Thanks for the revelation!  :D [/quote]

It sounds like your nanny had already considered the likelihood that you wouldn't want to pay for her daughter's meals when she suggested that she cover those expenses.

You are the one choosing to doubt whether that will be true. If you would prefer not to have to worry about it, just say so. Don't sit here being all smug about fire stations as though you didn't come here looking for validation to tell her no.[/quote]

What does the handwringing about bringing a nanny on vacation have to do with the question of whether to allow the daughter to come given the context I provided?

I fully expect her to say she can’t come if she can’t bring her daughter. And that’s perfectly fine. We will live. This was a nice to have for us. As I said previously, this was an additional request not in her contract. The people getting hysterical over bringing a nanny on vacation are distracting from the topic of this thread. [/quote]

The "handwringing" about taking the nanny on vacation is that you are clearly wealthy enough to have this "nice to have" vacation amenity but are doubting [b]whether this person will actually pay for what she said she would pay for[/b] in your original post. What she proposed sounded reasonable to a lot of people - bring daughter, pay daughter's way - while what you are handwringing about is whether she will actually pay for her daughter's expenses. If you don't want your nanny distracted from your children, just say so. That's actually a reasonable position, unlike "I'm worried we might have to pay for the daughter's meals at the fancy places we like to eat" which was your actual original concern in your first post.

I think you are being smug now because you were expecting everyone to be as entitled as you, and shockingly, they're not. [/quote]

It's almost as if there is a lack of trust with the Nanny or, OP thinks Nanny lies.  There's something deeper than having to pay for extra dinners.  [/quote]

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