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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP ghosted after she got enough to give the answer she wanted to give all along (no).

I am curious what OPs expectations are for the nanny on vacation and why she would assume the nanny wants to accompany her family to fancy dinners. The absolute last thing I want to do with my employer is go out for a fancy meal where I have to be “on”. [/quote]

I'm here, just enjoying watching this thread dissolve as the DCUM crazies come out from the woodwork.

We have a good relationship with our nanny. I think she would be offended if we did not include her in ANY restaurant meals, hence my original post. I agree with other commenters who pointed out we don't need to invite her to everything, particularly fancier meals.

I never suggested she is required to work 24/7 during the trip. I'm aware of what's market for taking nannies on vacation and we offered terms consistent with that.

But folks are right, we actually hate our kids so we're going to drop them off at the fire station tomorrow morning and enjoy this trip solo. Thanks for the revelation!  :D [/quote]

It sounds like your nanny had already considered the likelihood that you wouldn't want to pay for her daughter's meals when she suggested that she cover those expenses.

You are the one choosing to doubt whether that will be true. If you would prefer not to have to worry about it, just say so. Don't sit here being all smug about fire stations as though you didn't come here looking for validation to tell her no.[/quote]

What does the handwringing about bringing a nanny on vacation have to do with the question of whether to allow the daughter to come given the context I provided?

I fully expect her to say she can’t come if she can’t bring her daughter. And that’s perfectly fine. We will live. This was a nice to have for us. As I said previously, this was an additional request not in her contract. The people getting hysterical over bringing a nanny on vacation are distracting from the topic of this thread. [/quote]

I think it is so very out there to have a nanny with you on vacation, you don’t seem to understand how very privileged you seem. My DH is a partner at a large law firm, the vast majority of our friends are super successful, country club types. I don’t know a single person who has ever brought a nanny on vacation with them. Ever. I cannot fathom why you wouldn’t want to spend time with your kids on vacation. Are you Kim Kardashian? So the fact that you asked about doing that and then are worried about paying for a couple extra meals for a teenager? No wonder you are getting these responses.

You have the chance to do something very nice and kind for the woman who cares for your kids! It will be hugely beneficial for them with very downside to you! The teenager would otherwise probably be stuck sitting around at home while her dad works, when she could be on vacation, exploring a cool new place while her mom is working for you! Without her daughter, the nanny may not want to go out to eat or shopping or whatever on her own. What is she going to do with the downtime you have promised her? Sit around with your family and probably get roped into doing more job tasks? She already worked 9-5 but it’s 6:15 and little Susie needs a new diaper, guess who is probably going to be asked to change it?? You could be earning some major good will and just being good people for the low cost of a potentially covering a couple restaurant meals, but instead you are going to reject this very reasonable request so you can save a little bit of money. I bet you are Trump supporters. [/quote]

Lol. Don’t know what to tell you. Same career and this is common among people we know. [/quote]

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